My Baby Isn't Like The Other Babies

My baby isn't like the other babies.  At the local moms group play date for babies born this year, Lily was fussing almost the entire time.  She's a very happy baby.  But, she knows what she wants to do and how to communicate that we're not doing what she wants to do.  She did not want to be at the play date.  When she woke up from her nap, for the second week in a row, we were in someone else's house.  She was happy for a few minutes.  Then, her demeanor very quickly changed to "MOM!  I don't want our big adventure today to be ANOTHER house! GET ME OUTTA HERE!"  She wasn't really interested in playing with her toys.  She didn't want to play with everyone else's toys.  She didn't really care to play the I'm-gonna-drop-it-and-you're-gonna-hold-me-while-I-pick-it-up-game.  However, an hour after she woke up, she did find a maraca that she was very interested in playing with like it was the best toy ever.  When that nostalgia wore off, I knew we had to go.  But, Mommy didn't want to go.  I wanted to stay and talk to the other mommies.  Hmph.

This is happening more and more.  She's over play dates with other babies.  She's over Busboys and Poets.  She's over Gymboree.  She's over Le Leche League.  She's over playing on her tummy.  Forget trying to go to a non-baby related event.  None of the other babies throw fits like my baby does.  I don't see any of the other moms constantly panicked with trying to appease their little prince or princess when we go to these things.  I looked around as we were leaving and everyone else was happy as a clam.

Despite the fact that it does take three of us here at home to manage and we're all still pretty exhausted, Lily has so many strengths.  She is charismatic.  Her smile and laugh are to die for.  She can eat like a champ.  She loves to go shopping.  She loves to dance.  She loves to sing and watch other people do all of these things.

We keep hoping that when we can communicate and understand each other better that this dynamic will change.   But, that's probably just more waiting for a change that isn't what we expect.  She'll probably be able to much better communicate that she's over it.